Opposites attract?

I believe that opposites attract, but can they sustain? When you are first meeting someone, having things in common is nice, but sometimes it is the differences that are so intriguing. Sure it's nice to talk about hobbies you are both into, but maybe you are a techie-geek and she's an outgoing artist. That's exciting and fun and new.

But can two totally different people get married, have kids, lives, happiness?

I don't know.

My hubby and I are a lot alike in some ways and totally different in others. Lately, I've been feeling the differences a lot more. He's all of a sudden into motorcycles. I am not. I have no desire to ride one, own one, let my kids on one... None of that. He wants one. A lot. And I come off as the bitch for saying no. Uh, he already has a dangerous enough job, we don't have the money for it, and it just isn't practical right now. And yet, I am the bitch. I hate that. I did get him a training course for Father's Day which was a double gift. Not only did he get to learn to ride a bike, but he also got a whole weekend away from any chores and responsibilities.

And boats. I don't want a boat. I don't hate boats, but I don't love them either. I can sit in one and have just as good a time as the next guy, but I don't want to do it every weekend. Or even every month. Hubby does.

And that of course ties in with going to the lake, fishing, lake houses, camping. I am not that person. That is not my thing. And yet I am made to feel badly. Like I am crushing his hopes and dreams.

Well it isn't like I used to be outdoorsy, conned him into marrying me and then stopped being outdoorsy. I am not that kind of gal. Outdoorsy fun for me involves saltwater and sand and is about 2000 miles away.

I'd rather live on the West Coast where I used to. I bring it up every once in a while and it gets a chuckle.

I dream of writing a novel one day. That can be done while he is at the lake with other people that like it. But does that drive us apart? Can you have hobbies that are totally distinct and separate? When does it just become separate lives?

If my dreams and his dreams are mutually exclusive, what does that mean?